I can never deal with the "woe is me" type of person, either. I just don't know what to say. I like it when people come to grips with their problems and look for a way to cope and/or get out of it, rather than just screaming that their life sucks. Those are the types of people I'm willing to help.
I'm also definitely a firm believer in "mind over matter." I feel overjoyed when I hear about a sick person who tries so hard to function normally despite it.